[Solved] farther rights

Hi there

How do you get on with your ex partner? If you can talk to her about this and try and get some agreement then that would be the best thing to do. Otherwise further steps you can take will make your relationship with your ex more difficult and she may stop any contact you have with your daughter. It could also cause problems with her family, namely her brother who may want to retaliate...it's a tough call.

If you are unable to talk directly to the mother then you could try mediation to try and get some agreement on this. If this wasn't successful then the mediator would be able to sign off an application to enable you to apply to the court for an Order to try and stop this.

You could also talk to Social Services, or give the NSPCC helpline a call for further advice.

Hi,

I have just realised that I miss read the originel post when I answered, sorry my advice was for your ex stopping you from taking your daughter into that enviroment not for you stopping your ex from taking her. Lesson learned read the post properly.

I agree with NJ, you will have to be careful which ever route you take to stop any backlash from your ex's family and also from her in stopping contact, Mediation would be the best way as then you would have an agreement in place that was sorted out with your ex.

GTTS

i have gone down the route of mediation and she refused it and now i have no contact at all now plus i've stressed my views with social serves, this is why im asking if i can ask of this from the courts

Hi There,

If you have tried mediation and she has refused did the mediation service give you a form stating that you had attended but that she hadn't if they didn't then you would need that form in order to apply to the courts, I would have thought that if you can prove to the courts the threat that visiting her mum brings then they could make an order to try and help you, although as said by NJ and I, just be careful of how you do it if there is a future threat that violence could be used against you.

I'm not saying that you should just give up becuase of that threat, just tread carefully on how it's approached.

GTTS

I completely agree with GTTS, tread carefully but dont let it stop you from protecting your child and getting contact reinstated.

You will need the mediator to sign the C100 application form and you will also need form C1a to tell the court about the risks to your child. On the C100 you will be asking for a Child Arrangements Order for contact and a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent your ex from taking your daughter to her mothers home.

You can either pay for a solicitor to represent you, which can costs £££££s, or do as many here have done and self represent. If you choose to go it alone then we will help as much as we can.

It might help you to attend a Families Need Fathers meeting where you will meet others in a similar situation and get face to face support. Here's a link to their webpage where you will find a list of meetings and where and when the are held.

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

Best of luck and if you have further questions about the court process try posting in the Legal Eagle section as you will get more replies there.