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To be honest it really depends on the actual circumstance.
As someone has said here the amicable and sensible thing is the level of illness. If vomitting etc then re-arrange the contact.
I've had some parents threaten their ex with calling the Police if they didn't return them inside the hour. I've also had cases where children wanted to stay with the "NRP" when they were ill until they were over it and the RP was fine with it.
If you have an amicable agreement go ahead. A child equally cannot come to the understanding that only "X" parent is capable of looking after me when i'm ill.
The main issue usually comes to a head with those who have used courts to have an order. Illness relating to a child is (and i'm sure the barristers) and any others who work in an advisory capacity like me will tell you, this is the number one reason why children will not attend a Court appointed Contact Session.
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As far as I understand it, if there's a court order, you can't break it because they are ill and you are supposed to wrap them up and send them off, so that the child comes to understand that the resident parent is not the only one capable of giving care if they are ill.
This is the advice I have been given by several solicitors and a barrister, so I sent my dd, now 5.5, repeatedly. I did put my foot down once she'd been hospitalised and immediately after she came out of hospital and I found myself back in court as a result.
The welfare of the child is at the centre of all decisions made by the family court
Its amazing when you going through family court process your child is ill during proceedings when interim contact order is in place or they been sick night before your contact. In most cases child has been at school same day as well and when you aren't in court you find when things running ok u actually get your children when they are ill and get to help look after them and care for them same as mum is able to.
when a child is very young between 0 and 4 it can be more common for them not to want to come for contact as some at that age just want their mummy.. You can normally be able to pick up on that yourself though and mum would genuinely offer you another day and not be hostile
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