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Hi
My ex-wife died last year. My daughter is 11 and came to live with me and my wife. Maternal uncle and grandparents have taken us to court for residence and lost. They live 125miles away and are now trying for contact although they won't even try to speak to me, just through court and a solicitor. It has taken over 5 months to get a cause of death. I have full parental responsibility, and there is a pension from NHS, and a private insurance that she didn't change details on so came to my house. My daughter is the direct descendant, my ex was single, so I think these monies should come to my daughter to be put in trust or a high interest account. Am I right? If so- what would be my next step? Thanks for any advice.
Paul
I'm really sorry you are going through all this. It must be so hard on so many levels. Your poor daughter as well.
I don't know much about what you are currently dealing with, but I would think you're right in putting any money into some sort of account for your daughter. They are surely hers alone, and anyone from the maternal family thinking they have a say over you, her father, would be wrong (in my opinion). I imagine the maternal family feel like they have lost not just there daughter/sister, but also their granddaughter, so they are probably finding it difficult to come to terms with that. You are her father though, and of course your daughter should be living with you. That surely goes without saying, but no doubt they are not going to give up without a fight. The best thing they could do for themselves is to put any differences they have with you aside, come to terms with the fact that they aren't going to get custody, unless they have some serious [censored] on you (which I doubt), and sort out contact arrangements that work for everyone involved, rather than losing contact with their granddaughter completely. She has already lost her mum. It would be in her best interests that these things were settled instead of being continuously fought and her losing other family members in the process.
I know I don't need to tell you all of this, but wanted to give my two cents and to reassure you that I (at least) think you are in the right.
hi,
sounds like someone trying to re-claim lost property or something. it's good that they lost the custody case.that 125 mile distance must be a blessing. even if they got to see your child regularly, can you trust them? is there a chance they might disappear with her?
I would get some professional legal advice on the financial side, I think it could save you and your daughter in the long run. I'm guessing that her parents don't want you to benefit from her death, and that's why they are fighting it.
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