[Solved] Ex taking son abroad (longer than I thought!)

....Tbh there's not a lot you can do except to try and negotiate some extra time with him before he goes and after he comes back.

I would talk to her and let her know that you know, try not to let it get into an argument but let her know that she needs to be upfront about anything concerning your son as trust is very important if you are to co parent successfully.

Hi,

As said there isn't much you can do, the letter you signed by the sounds of it didn't have a date that they would leave the country only return, so in effect she has written permission to take him even if that was gained under handedly.

As Mojo has said try and get some extra time before and after to make up for it.
GTTS

Hi guys,

Thanks for the advice.

Yeah, she told me the 5th was leaving date and I never even thought about them leaving earlier, I was just concerned about the return date and if they'd ever come back.
More fool me for not noticing and signing away. I knew there was something not right when I signed it and how they were acting at the time.

I've spoke to my solicitor and he said we could put a stop to them going but has advised me that it would cost quite a lot and would probably be best to let it go.
I've also contact mediation to arrange more sessions.

Hope you are both well.

ejlmc.

Hi,

Your solicitor is right that you could try and stop them, however I wouldn't have thought that a judge would make that order unless there was a very serious concern that they wouldn't return, your better to try mediation to see if you can get some extra time before and after they go.

GTTS

unfortunately, they were looking for an argument. Didn't go well at all.

Think it's time to take a step back from everything.

Thanks for all your advice though...more than appreciate it.

Hi,

When you say take a step back what are your plans?

GTTS

I think it's time I stopped getting so court up in it all...it's making me ill.

I think it's time I took at step back and see him when i can and when I can't, i have to just accept it. Instead of getting wound up when they cancel on me an hour before I get to see him.

Last night ended up in them shouting at me in the street saying 'i'm a pathetic excuse for a father' and i don't love my son because I pay more in paying my car off than they get in child maintenance. They use anything they can against me and act untouchable.

My parents and grandparents for that matter have all told me to try and get on with my life. Saying the mother and her family are going to make everything as hard as possible for me.

I've decided to write a letter for my solicitor to keep and send to him when he is 18, Just in-case end up with me never seeing him. He'll always know I fought for him and will always be there.

If it's the odd occasion, then I think you are right - if they are cancelling contact on a regular basis, then I would say that it worth enforcing. It's about picking your battles wisely, and only going for the ones that are important, and that you have a good chance of winning.

Hi

Hang in there if you can. Remember you are doing this for your son.

I feel for you going through this.. Its awful when one parent behaves like this to prevent a child seeing the other parent.

I know its really difficult to deal with this [censored] - always keep in your mind your sons life is better with you in it.

We're here to help if we can.

MH

Thanks guys.

Saw him last night for an hour. Got a pretty big hug and a bucket of drool 😀 (Started teething).

Tough 3 weeks ahead.

Hope you're all well.

How are you feeling in general now? Like you say it's probs best to take a step back for a while and let the dust settle and try and get yourself in tip top condition, see your child when you can if you let the little things ride what she does and don't react she will get bored of trying to p*** you off hopefully.

Solicitors are stress and can cause more conflict so if the conflict isn't there then theres no hassle, It takes it's toll man the whole thing emotionally, financially and physically destroyed me but once I had dusted myself down started to eat sleep and chill well I went back in there fighting.

What's the situation now how often do you get to see little one? It still sends a shiver down my spine now when I think back to how I felt not seeing my new born for 10 months I don't know how I got through it but you do 🙂