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Since this covid-19 **** my ex partner is saying I cannot see my son as she is rightly worried, so am I of course.
I have him every weekend usually and he's almost 5.
But, even though I have no symptoms and will have been in isolation for a week, I'm saying let me pick him up friday. She's saying it's a separate household and against government guidelines. So she's saying I isolate for a week and then spend time down at hers in order to see my boy because she says the lockdown will be in place until mid may.
That's too long for me to go without seeing him, it's been a couple of weeks already.
I don't want to spend time down at hers.
But I need to see my son.
Any ideas?
Please?!
hi,
what she suggests doesnt make sense. lockdown, so why would it be ok for you to go to her place?
if she wont let you see have your child at your place, you should ask her to allow regular phone/video calls with your child. many of us are having to go through this.
I know mate, it's hard for us all. I'm getting regular video calls, thankfully.
What you are suggesting is within the current rules, what she is suggesting isn't - Gove clarified a couple of weeks ago that children could move between the parents where they weren't living together.
Thanks actd for that comment.
I've just shown my ex this link on WhatsApp and she's got all funny.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52018136
Seems to me I am permitted to have him and she doesn't like it, showing who she really is now.
The government said children can move between parents, so she's wrong. I know it's a worrying time, but you are not putting your child at risk by coming to your house.
Thanks actd for that comment.
I've just shown my ex this link on WhatsApp and she's got all funny.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52018136
Seems to me I am permitted to have him and she doesn't like it, showing who she really is now.
yes i tried explaining all this to my ex then gave up. its obvious she's just using this crisis to keep the kids all to her self. they are not breaking the court order by doing this, as long as allow alternative like they allow you to have video calls.
Yes, that's the problem really - showing them evidence that children can move between homes assumes that the parent with care is reasonable, and if that was the case, you wouldn't need all of this in the first place π
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