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my ex wife has remarried but everytime i speak to her about anything regarding my daughter she has to speak to her new partner and will never give me an answer without consulting him. This is starting to annoy me as he doesnt really have a say as he is not my daughters dad and now has said about going through the csa even though i am already paying an aggreed amount which is less than csa but i travel 250 miles to see my daughter. but he has said he wants it to go through the csa as this is easier... is this right??? and any advice would be apprecciated about dealing with ex wifes new husbands that seem controlling.
thanks
Hi, if they apply through the CMS you will have to pay an additional 20% on top of the liable amount as a collection fee and your ex will pay them 4% of what she receives. There used to be a 'Travel Variation Order' where costs over £15.00 for travel can be deducted from your liability. Give the CMS a call and they will be able to give you the info as to how it works, this link might help too.
You could always try going to Mediation with your ex so that you can discuss this together in person without the interference of her new partner. I agree he does seem controlling or it could be that she's using him as an excuse to get her own way. Legal Aid is still available for Mediation. Give NFM a call, here is a link to their site;
This explains the collection process
http://www.cmoptions.org/en/other-arrangements/statutory-child-maint.asp
Hi, if they apply through the CMS you will have to pay an additional 20% on top of the liable amount as a collection fee and your ex will pay them 4% of what she receives.
http://www.nfm.org.uk/
That's only applied on the collect and pay service - if you pay on time directly to your ex, then there is no charge beyond the initial application fee (which your ex will pay if she opens the case)
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