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Hi all
My ex appears to have moved with my 2 children without informing me.I haven't seen the children for just over 2 years after chastising my son for saying some quite extreme swear words especially for a 10 yr old.No physical punishment was used but allegedly I frightened him and her when I shouted and basically read him the riot act My ex did not and never has since made contact to source my side of the events but nevertheless my children have stayed away because they are now scared of me.Whilst I have begrudgingly come to terms with that it now appears shes moved.They are definitely in the same town but I do not know where.During all this time I continue to pay maintenance.So question really is is she legally bound to inform of this change of address?,she has residential access to what was my visitation access , neither party has custody sought for by court actions.Anyone who can assist in this is fully welcome to comment.
She isn't legally obliged to let you know her address, especially if she is concerned for the wellbeing of the children, which no doubt she would argue. I suppose the question is, what actual difference does it make that she's moved without telling you? If you want to try to get contact back, then you would need to go to mediation to start the process, in which the mediator would need to know the address (someone will hopefully comment with the form you need) to invite her to mediation.
Hi there
I think, as you haven't had any contact with them for two years, it would be difficult to argue that you should have been informed.
If there's no court order in place, the resident parent can do more or less as they like to be honest. Contact and maintenance are completely separate issues and one is not dependent on the other.
If you want to try and re establish you relationship, you would need your ex's address to insitiate the process. You can apply for a seek and find order, this would involve submitting form C4 and giving as much information as possible. once they have been found, you can apply for an order for contact, although yo may have to attempt mediation first.
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