[Solved] Ex keeps asking for lifts

Hi,

I can only speak from my perspective and say that I wish I had a relationship of some description with my ex that wasn't fractious and difficult

There is the obvious challenge that by refusing, she goes on to make contact difficult but a small concession in giving a lift, even if on a regular basis, may go some way to keeping things amicable and healthy for your little ones

With time, she may go on to meet someone who can take the reigns

Just my thoughts, I'm sure others will have their own views 🙂

I am new here just looking around and I saw your post.
I instantly had to look because I was in the same situation with the ex.
Honestly there is no way to win. I broke up with the ex last nov, actually demanded I did all the stuff I did in the relationship most of all driving, its my responsibility and I have to do it. In breaking up and was not the most pleasant breakup, broke up because she is a screw ball in short. But when I said nope we are no longer together so that for is no longer an option for you.
She gave me multiple times to change my mind but its a solid no. That night the last time she gave me the chance to change the next words were and quote" ok I don't think you should see (daughters name) again then"
Since then I had a little contact and any time challenged her for more time with my cub she cut more off the top. Not seem my little one since july.

Women are vengeful creatures, if you have the nuts to try it say ok.... I will pick up the kids but you can walk home, if your capable of texing me you are just as well to call a taxi.

Sorry to hear stay strong and focused

Get a court order for the weekends normally once they know your thinking of court they "Panic" "you can see the kid again I'm sorry "

They want to control Contact instead of being told by court

You say you get on better than before, seems like a pretty good position. If you are able to help her and she genuinely asks you for help I'd personally help her.
I wouldn't help her if she has other men in her life though cos she'd just using you like a mug if that's the case.
If she's single and you're single and you both get on well just carry on helping.
If there's any feelings between you both in time you get older and wiser you never know you could become a family again?

I think alot of young family break ups because when the kids are so young the hard work involved test relationship to the max,We would always argue because I'd come in after being at work all day and after 5 minutes of sitting down give me jobs with kids to do.

Maybe when they are older it's easier to have a comfertable relationship not so testing,I'm a introvert so I like piece for a few hours esp after work .

Atm I finding it nice having kids at the weekend because I can create my own day with them on my own time schedule

You could try this maybe itl push your ex away or it might bring her closer haha on a weekend ask her if she wants to join you and the kids. She'll be entering your world. Could be quite nice for you all

You could try setting time limits if she's going to do this, so that you have set aside a particular time (possibly offer this at the start), and she can plan around this also. That way, you can plan other things with your kids knowing you won't be disturbed.