[Solved] Ex introducing new partner to kids.

Hi Mark

It's good to vent, especially somewhere like this where you'll find kindred spirits that understand what you're going through.

We don't just stop loving when a relationship is over, and 2 months is no time at all,,it's hardly any wonder you feel broken hearted, it does get better.

In my opinion, it's really premature to introduce your children so soon, they are also dealing with the separation, it's such a pity that you can't voice your reservations about this, you could try writing to her about how you feel about it....but as you say it's unlikely to change anything.

I'd get busy on Sunday, to try and take your mind off the situation, you can always come her and have a good old vent about it....chin up mate.

All the best

I would add to that to say that as justifiably hard as this is for you, you need to find the strength to keep your children out of it, ie, try to avoid saying anything to the children or having a reaction in front of them that might make them feel bad about this, because that can create a conflict within them that they don't deserve either. Best to find a mate, family, someone you can talk to about this, because you don't want to keep the lid on permanently either.

Thanks for the reply, great advice. Totally agree about keeping the kids out of it, when my 9 yr old let it slip my face must have given all my emotions away even though I didn't say a word, he asked me if I was going to cry! I just asked him not to mention mummy bf to me, that it was better that way, I was out on the spot a little reminder tbh
I'm glad you agree it's premature, unless she's 100% sure it's a long term thing, in 2 months how you'd know I'm not so sure...
I think I'll just wait and see, if she asks for my opinion or consent I'll express my concerns, if not guess I'll just have to suck it up.
Seeing friends sunday evening, have already warned them my mood might not be great, it's a shame cos the last week or two I have felt so much more positive, this has set me back somewhat. I really miss her, I dont like her much at all atm, but I love her deeply, so trying deal with this and everything, it's exhausting tbh.
Thanks for listening, I hope it makes sense...
Mark

... It makes complete sense Mark. There will be set backs and bad days but as time goes on they will happen less and less...rather like when we lose a loved one, we find coping strategies to deal with the loss.

Children are more savvy than we give them credit for, keeping them out of it is good advice, but they will know you're upset, being strong about it will help them not to worry too much about you. As long as they're aware that they can talk to you when they need to, this is more likely to happen if they see you coping well with it.

All the best

Agree with all the above advice......it must be a very difficult time for you, but staying strong for the kids, keeping yourself busy, seeing friends, and taking care of yourself are all important steps to take at the minute. It often takes our hearts quite a while to catch up with our heads. Try to keep talking to friends if you can so that you don't bottle things up.

All the best.

Thank you for all the kind replay guys, you all make a lot of sense. Feeling very low today, I've been telling myself I hate her for the last few weeks, it's just not true, and I really don't like myself trying to feel that way, I feel better about me wen I'm nice to people, and I love and miss her desperately, no point lying to myself that it's any different ya know.
So I've messaged her to tell her that, and that I hope she's ok etc, whether thats right or wrong thing to have done i dont know, feel a little better now I've been honest, still so so low though, I hate feeling this way, it's awful.... but I'll get through it.
As for the introducing the kids etc, no mention so guess I just need suck it up.....