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I'd like some advice. I am separated for three and a half years, I have two children who live with their mother (my children are 18 & 16) both about to go into full time education, the 18 year old is on a foundation course, which appears to not qualified as higher education. My ex partner has benefited from an amount of money from a will, approximately £30,000. I pay (as per the CSA guidelines) £450 a month in maintenance. I estimate that she has a monthly income including my payments of around £3000 a month.i don't believe my children go without, and I'd like to reduce my payments as I believe I am funding a lifestyle I was never able to afford. I get month requests from my children for extra money, for w3kends out and have to pay for door to door travel expenses to see them., She won't even pay for the bus fair to the train fares to the coach station or the train station to visit me. They live 200 miles away. She walked out on me when I became unemployed. When she walked out of the door, she told she wanted no monies from me, yet after three days gaining employment I was contacted by the CSA advising me that I was liable to pay money to my ex partner. This seems dreadfully unfair. Can I challenge this?
Hi
I'm afraid that maintenance is based entirely on your income and not on her income or any money she has. You aren't required to pay anything other than maintenance.
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