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Hi Guys,
Been missing for a while I know, so here is my update.
I had my first overnight last weekend Friday to Monday and it was amazing, the first time I have woken up to see my daughter in nearly a year. The mother has completely changed her attitude and agreed to everything I have been asking for since the start of all this madness. She has agreed that we do 50/50 shared care starting in two weeks. One week on and one week off with a mid week contact for the other parent. Alternate Christmas/New Year and birthdays we will do together. Tomorrow she will see her solicitor to get this officially drawn up and will be sent to the judge to rubber stamp it, so no need for any final hearing.
I cant believe it, me and the ex are actually friends again. We talk everyday regarding our daughter and she keeps me in check with everything now. What a transformation. This time last year she left me and cut all communication and made severe allegations of DV. I really thought I would never see her or my child again. December I had my first contact in a contact centre, now I have what I have always wanted, 50/50 shared care.
Just want to say to all that it is not all bad stories and that there are really happy endings to look forward to and no matter what your ex has put you through try your hardest to be the bigger person for the sake of your child/children. The best relationship with your kids is truly one that is supported by a healthy relationship with the other parent. Let me and Slim be your inspiration our ex's really put us through the worst times of our life but we have managed to put that aside for our kids and I believe it is that attitude that has brought us to where we are today, getting what we asked for and even more.
Good lucks guys!!
Good to hear! π
Sometimes it takes the dad to make a stand and show how far they're prepared to go, for the mother to back down and see the bigger picture....it happens more than you think...thank goodness!
Well done Craig....it is all about the bigger picture and being the bigger person. π
I strongly believe that to be the case as well. But like NJ said it's our determination to be apart of our child's life that has made them see sense.
Hi Craig
That is brilliant news. Im made up for you.
As 1626 says its always good to hear positive stories.
I wish you every happiness with your daughter
MH
Another fantastic result. Well done π π π
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