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So I’ve been separated since September 2017 and been with my new partner since jan 2018. Ever since my ex found out about my new partner she has done everything to cause us issues.
She would tell our kids to be a certain way to her, calling her horrible names infront of them, even messaging one of our kids calling my new partner a slag... to a 7year old.
She has sent very detailed explicit messages about what we used to do to my partner. As she is from Czech called her all kinds from foreign c*nt, slag, [censored], slapper, go back home, you should be deported, hurry up brexit... you think of it... she’s done it.
Now I’ve never ever thought about reporting any of this as I thought she would eventually just get over it and move on.... she hasn’t.
It’s still happening, whenever we are arguing she brings up my new partner and calls her all kinds. For me it doesn’t effect me what people say about me but I know and can see more and more that it is effecting my partner.
Started again tonight, she’s reported me to the police for apparently driving without license/ insurance. I do have license and I am insured but her being her instead of asking if I am has instantly jumped at me not having any license or insurance. I politely told he to stop calling my partner a slag and I would answer her questions, she wouldnt, so I never answered her. And instead of asking, has kicked off, reported me to the police, so I’m waiting on that now, I know everything will be fine but again... it’s just another thing after another.
What can I do? I’ve tried and tried and tried to talk to her and get her to change, I’ve told her she doesn’t have to like her, but she needs to accept I’ve moved on I have new partner, our kids like her, but because of what she is telling them you can see it’s effecting them also As they are sometimes weary about doing certain things or saying certain things because she’s told them not to talk to her not to go near her not to touch her... and I’m at a point now where I’m just tired of it all and I want it to stop.
Someone suggested reporting her for harassment to new partner... but that’s just gonna add more fuel to her forever burning fire. I’m stuck.
Any advice on what to do?
Thanks.
hi,
lol sounds so stupid, about police and car insurance. eventually they will get fed up of her wasting police time.
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is it not possible to ignore her silly abuse about your partner? what if you just text her to tell her that your picking up/dropping kids on such and such time, and thats it? its a good idea to keep reporting her for harrassment and abusive messages.build up a case against her and she can get into a lot of trouble.
Tbh I would log it with the police and tell your ex that this needs to stop and both of you focus on the children.
Don't argue back with her, just ignore anything she says that isn't about the kids?
If she persists, perhaps you could consider mediation or court action to get a child arrangements order in place.
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