[Solved] Everything stacked against me.. It seems

hi,

you should be glad a fact finding was not done. it could extend the court process by possibly another 3 months or more. and it could backfire on you if judges/cafcass make stupid decisions about you. they can be easily swayed by ex's false allegations and take it as fact.

also its not a good idea to go to war with Cafcass. would be pointless. you need them on your side.

@ferfer - if the court proceedings can move forward without a fact finding, you will find they move forward much more quickly. If Cafcass are recommending progression without a fact finding, it will save everyone a lot of time and heartache. Are you with magistrates or a judge?

Hi Yoda. Thank you for your advice. Today I had a call from early years help, about the emotional care packages they have in place for my children. The lady I speak to, for the first time ever, asked Me, do I think my wife's allegations are her being malicious?? I very gracefully answered yes absolutely, and I still can't believe it's come to this. The woman who I truly loved, and married 14 years ago, has turned into a spiteful, nasty woman. I just don't understand it. The one woman who said to me, darling I would never ever stop you seeing our children, if ever we split up.... She cheated on me again, emptied our account then left me homeless, and living in my car with my wheelchair in the back.. There are no words anymore... And on it goes...

Defo push for the contact centre yourself they are ideal to avoid any more confrontation with the ex, Its a bit daunting at first but if you're seen to be enthusiastic about it it will be all good and they are actually good places for your child to get to know you again if you havent seen them for a long period of time. Looking back the centre staff were bitches from [censored] but it worked for me.

Hi Yoda, it is with a judge. The reason I want a fact finding hearing is because I can prove all of her accusations wrong, CAFCASS would not hear it when I tried to show them. For example, my ex has accused me of criminal damage which CAFCASS still think I did. I wanted to show them that I was in France at the time of this allegation visiting my brother, i have boarding passes, photos and much more to prove them wrong. She claims I have breached the non mol order too, the police have no record of this, the police also have no records of the various call outs she claims she made. Her lies are ridiculous, but CAFCASS are taking every word from her as truth and only allowing supervised contact becaus ethey think i am a maniac.it is ridiculous how they will not allow me to shoe evidence, the CAFCASS officer said "you could have made all of this up, how do i know these messages are real or that boarding pass is isnt fake" that is what they said to me, so I can prove my ex is lying, but they would rather take the womens side in all of this, Does anyone else not think this is unfair?