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Hi all. Been looking through the court paperwork, and I've got 2 more hearings, pre trial hearing in November, and a 3 day fact finding hearing in January. Last court hearing 2 weeks ago cafcass were going to recommend interim contact for me to see my children as its been 4 months with no contact in any form due to my wife's allegations again. Cafcass went to speak to her and say they were recommending interim contact, and she came out with 2 more allegations, so no contact recommended. Has anyone been through this before? has anyone had a 3 day fact finding hearing before? I've done my scott schedule and sent GP medical records to her solicitor. Still not had her Scott schedule as of yet. Bearing in mind my wife made allegations against me in 2012, which was NFAd by police. But here I am back in the same boat again, all because she admitted to cheating on me again. I just want to see my children again. It seems to me that each time she makes allegations everything grinds to a halt. With more and more allegations, what chance do i seriously have in the judge giving me some contact with my children ever again? My biggest fear is a judge will say I will never see my children again.. Thanks for any advice guys..
Hi Devo
I haven't got lots of advice I'm sure the dad's have got more than I have but fact finding hearing go on the statements you both submit to court it very important when you go to your hearing in January that you remember what you have wrote on your statement because that's what you will be questioned on at the hearing
The fact finding hearing is a chance to put your side to things across to the judge if it goes your way you will get access to your children it just depends on the results
Does seem odd to me that you ex keeps making new allegations I know when people first split up there normally allergations made from both sides and things can get bitter but it does seem her aim is to prevent you from seeing you children which is wrong
I feel that all father's should see their children no matter what they have done in the past I certainly don't want my son to not see his father
Hope things work out for you
Stick in there, Everything does seem like its all against you right up until the final hearing, there is no 2 ways about it you've just got to take all the [censored] and carry on you will get there in the end, Theres nothing worse than being stopped from seeing your child and it will be by far the hardest thing in life you will ever have to deal with, I found it worse than family members passing away. I never seen my girl for the first year of her life I missed out on her sitting up, rolling over, crawling, walking and talking My first fathers day without her was THE darkest day of my life then my birthday and her 1st birthday, I will never ever forgive my ex for that, Try not to let it all take over your life, I buried my head in work, got plenty of exercise, leaned on friends and family, kept posting on here and took up hobbies which im still doing today. Take all the [censored] like water off a ducks back, dont get disheartened, make sure youre whiter than white jump through all the hoops tick all the boxes and never give in pal.
Take care
Slim
My wife is doing the same. The annoying thing is, I requested to CAFCASS and the courts that fact finding hearing should be carried out. But my wife....who is accusing me of all of this rubbish, has refused a fact finding hearing so they are not going to allow it? Why does she get to decide if there is one or not. She knows I have the evidence to prove her wrong, thats why. It is a real shame, and I feel CAFCASS are not suggesting the fact finding because they are afraid. they dont want to be exposed for being made fools of by my wife. CAFCASS have fallen hook, line and sinker with this one and they dont want to admit they have made a MASSIVE mistake.
@ Devo - Courts very rarely make no contact orders. You just have to stick with the process and jump through the hoops. It's positive that Cafcass wanted interim contact and you've got a 3 day fact finding to try and put this all to bed. Any gap in contact is not good for the children and the court and Cafcass know this. Hang on in there.
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