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Hello all,
Judge ordered interim contact of unsupervised contact. Less than a month in to interim contact, ex started playing around with contact and eventually stopped contact and only wanted to resume if I agree to supervised contact at a contact centre.
I applied for enforcement order. I have a hearing next week. What should I do, how should I prepare, what should I include in my position statement and can I claim costs? She's on benefits so will claiming cost be an available option to me.
At FHDRA she tried to get me to have contact at contact centre but I said no unless she paid. She told judge she's on benefits so the judge told me she can't make her pay if she's on benefits and in end it was decided that grandfather will be involved in handovers in public place. Grandfather now doesn't want to be involved. Can I ask the judge to tell her to pay for contact centre for handovers since she's the one who's insisting on that?
hi,
if I were you i would stick to what the judge ordered in the interim, unsupervised contact. tell the judge there are no safeguarding issues, so there is no reason to put you in a contact centre and cause you financial hardship. don't agree to go to a contact centre. my ex tried that with me, just to get revenge lol. failed.
use enforcement hearing to get extended time/days with your child. i dont know how old your child is, but am guessing that one day you would like your child to spend weekends with you and stay overnight. so bring this up.
He's 15 months. Do I ask for interim contact to be reinstated or shall I ask for what I originally want which is shared care arrangement?
hi,
well interim is temporary. its good place to start. i dont know how enforcement hearings work, but i read that majority end up being variations of the court order, so dad ends up with more days/time with child. when overnights started for me, one of my kids was 2 and a half. have another child who turned 1 recently. agreed with ex that still too young for overnights (can do day visits instead). can wait till baby reaches 2 then look at overnight stays.
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