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You need to look at your work schedule 1st and come up with 2 or 3 plans you can approach ex with regarding summer hoidays and easter.
Generally dads take a week 1 block or do contact as normal at easter. summer holidays some dads have 2 one week blocks and split the rest, follow order as normal or come to some other arrangement you both agree with but definitely advise to do it well in advance and send it to her so she don't forget is she agrees. it is about your availability during holidays and not your exs
Schools now give you nearly a years worth of notice of the next school year dates. So we agree a schedule for that school year by end of April. Other people I asked did it by end of June/July regardless of whether they had an Order or not. Due to my ex's behaviour with changing her mind at the last minute - which she stupidly showed during the proceedings which covered a summer holiday and half term - I left enough time to take her to Court if needed.
hi,
what do you think if i did this: ask court for half the school holidays (reserve them), but in reality I will not actually use up all of the half, and tell ex that i will take 3-4 days here and there?
Don't go there as you are making it complicated for your kids. State what holidays you want and actually take them.
You need to remember the ultimate reason you are doing all this is so you and your kids can have a good relationship. If you start screwing around with when you see them, you are punishing them not your ex and when they are old enough they just won't bother with you.
hi, thanks for the advice. holiday issue is not to mess around with kids, its just a precaution when dealing with a looney toxic mother. i have never messed around the kids and would go running if offered extra time with them. anything thats not in the order, she will not give it, thats how she is. in my current order it says i can have kids up to 2 weeks in summer. as ex is already causing trouble, i will ask for half of holidays, so atleast its guaranteed on paper.
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