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What's the opinion of giving my boy a dummie??? he is 4 weeks old
Hi there and welcome.
My children had dummies, so did my grandsons. It's a personal preference, they do seem to soothe a baby and sometimes the baby will discard it themselves as they get older.
My daughter took my grandsons dummy away when he was about 18 months old and he was ok with it. She began by limiting it to bedtimes first and the withdrew it.
There is an argument that it can damage the baby teeth coming through, but this didn't happen to mine. If a dummy is introduced then its advisable not to dip it into anything sugary as that can cause tooth decay.
I don't think they are as popular theses days and I guess if you can manage without one then that would be the ideal, but for some babies that are hard to settle it does help.
I should have mentioned that babies often suffer from colic at 4 weeks old and you can tell if this is the case if your baby is jerking his knees up towards his stomach when he is crying. Gripe water can help with this.
Thanks, am guessing I will see how it goes.
I have been told that sometimes a drop of warm water in a bottle can settle him at bed time, keep forgetting to ask the health visitor about it. Not gave him anything but the milk at the moment.
Me and mum are both in early 30 and are confused to the whole baby life hahaha
....that made me smile, I remember being told by my mother to give sugared warm water, a definite no no these days! Hahaha... No harm trying the warm water though, it won't harm him, as long as the water has been boiled and cooled.
Is he a hungry baby? Crying soon after he has had his bottle? I had one of those and I introduced him to baby rice at about 6 weeks which helped.... Also swaddling baby can help to settle them, you can buy swaddling blankets these days, although I just used a sheet.
However I know a lot of the things we used to do aren't acceptable in the modern world! ....my dad used to put a drop of whiskey in my bottle to help me sleep! Oh how times have changed! 🙂
I'm over the moon my ex has never introduced a dummy to our 17 month old it was such a nightmare getting her sister off one the ex said she's never going give one to our daughter which is all good in my book 🙂
My children had dummies - my son didn't seem to want to stop using his, so I painted a bit of Nilbite (the stuff you put on your finger nails to stop you biting them) - worked instantly, we didn't take the dummy away, he just didn't want to put it in his mouth (and the look on his face was priceless) and after three or four days, didn't even want to carry it round with him 😀
use one if it helps soothe them. any problems with teeth (if they exist, which I suspect they don't!) can be sorted out later, nearly all teenagers need a brace these days anyway! just ween them off it at a suitable time.
If they don't have a dummy they'll suck something else, like a thumb, and it's a lot harder getting them off that than a dummy.
weening them off is easy enough using a few tricks. my daughter lost interest when she was about 18 months and we had to buy a bigger size. It was a lot harder weening her off breast feeding!
Nannyjane has given you some great tips here....oh dear, I do remember the " sugar water" ...lol.
My eldest granddaughter had one as a little baby and like her father ( my son) soon realised that nothing was coming out of it, so she discarded it.
Her sister, my youngest grandchild to date (9 months old) is the polar opposite and uses it to go to sleep with...and only to go to sleep with.
My first grandson had a dummy and the parents decided that on a particular day the fairy would come and take his dummy away as he was becoming a big boy. He coped really well and has never asked for it back.
My second grandson never had a dummy but sucks his thumbs ferociously and you can already see that his teeth are
becoming crooked.
I have no objection to a dummy as most of them are manufactured with orthodontics in mind.
Take care
Kirsten
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