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I'm sorry to bother the board with what could be a dumb question but can somebody tell me if mediation is compulsory and what happens. I've googled it and it's not as clear as it could be and some posts on various sites suggest you can go straight to divorce proceedings without it happening. The reason I ask is my wife seems to be determined that we should be the first couple in history to divorce using just telepathy and a couple of snotty emails.
Hi, don't worry, it's not a dumb question at all. To the best of my knowledge, mediation should be attempted, but one party can refuse of give a reason why they don't want to go for mediation, and then it will go to court - it's up to the court then to decide to send it back to mediation or just deal with it there. To keep on the good side of the court, you should follow the rules though where possible.
Hi there
This might help
http://www.advicenow.org.uk/file/2455/download?token=ompo7_4o
https://www.advicenow.org.uk/file/2474/download?token=fkQO1HNr
Thanks, guys. Much appreciated. Good to be able to find the website again. First time in a few days. The usual links in Google aren't working. Something about being re-directed too many times.
Sorry about that, there's maintenance work ongoing on the forum at the moment, so it's a bit hit-and-miss at the moment, hopefully it should settle down soon.
Hi There,
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My understanding was that if you are able to come up with an agreement than mediation wouldn't be required, so if you are sending the court papers for divorce with an agreement attached then they wouldn't send it back to mediation.
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My divorce went through some time ago though.
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GTTS
Thanks GTTS. I suppose if you have already reached an agreement there would be no purpose in mediation. My wife has spoken to me twice in 6 months and not seen me since early November. If she presses for a divorce she's not divorcing a person, she's divorcing a picture of me she's built up in her head. I am not inclined to agree to anything on that basis. So it could be mediation for us if it comes to it.
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