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Hi, I’ve just joined this forum and have found it really interesting as I’m going through the separation from [censored] myself so my situation is horrendous and I don’t say that lightly considering what this forum is about.
I have good reason to believe my ex’ new boyfriend is driving my children around without a licence or insurance. I believe my ex partner has condoned this.
I’ve tried police, they say without solid evidence it’s a matter for DVLA and when I speak to DVLA they say it’s a matter for the Police.
This bloke is a complete liability, 28 years old, no job, no car licence, and he’s also barred from seeing his own child....but is fine to be with mine apparently.
I’ve spoken to therapists, doctors, online therapists, mediators, solicitors, social services are involved but seem fairly biased towards the drug taking prostitute of a mother over me.
This driving thing might be the straw which breaks the camels back so to speak so any suggestions as to how I find out if he has miraculously taking his driving test would be really helpful.
Many thanks.
Hello, do you have any type of child arrangement order in place at the moment? If not, apply for one and raise your concerns and the court may order cafcass to look in to this. My eldest daughter told me that my ex's boyfriend smacks her [censored] and she does not like it. I called social services and I got no help at all, they just told me to speak too the mother about it. It is unfair, as i know if my ex called them and said I hit them, they would be on me like a tonne of bricks.
If you have his care registration, I think you can look up if it is taxed, insured etc. But i do not believe it will say who the named driver is. I am not sure of the rules of you being allowed to video or photograph him driving, but i suppose if you see him drive past, you can call the police and report it?
hi,
don't bother phone DVLA. all you do is make note of his license plate, go on DVLA website and report his car as being unlicensed/uninsured.
Thanks for the replies. He’s driving my Ex’s car and another car. I’m going to call crime stoppers today and report him.
Thanks for this, I’m going to see a solicitor to start custody proceeding as there are drugs being used at the house also.
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