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Hi guys I have problem . Had bad times with wife was accused for domestic abuse and sentenced a couple.months ago for that I've punched the door . Was asking her for 5 hours to get back my wallet and mobile phone but question is about what happened 3 days ago. My wife was attacked by someone at night and was in come. We are living in two diffrent flats. Police.thought it was me but they clearef me after 8 hours of questioning but they checked my phone and her phone. She woked up and I was able to speak with her . Now she told that police officer said that someone from domestic abuse will contact her because of our messages. They weren't bad nothing like that" i will do something to you or something worse" normal argue about her cheating and other normal stuff. She said that she doesn't want to speak with them. She didn't complain because for her this is stupid what they are doing. My question is can the charged me without her complain????Or she has to complain and after that they can charge me for what they want but this is stupid I didn't do anything wrong
Forgot mention that social service.said that she can't stay alon efor ovetnight with kids and I have to be with them Decission was made for kids that I will.move tonger house.for some.time and I did it. Everything seems be ok we still.want.to.divorce but is very good comunication between us. Social.service said that sitiation when kids can't stay alone with mum.at night is temporary not for.long time. And after that I will back.to my flat. But I still think about that police and messenger. I'm reading.this messages all the time and don't see anything bad.
Hi Magic
Sounds like you are having a tough time. I'm no legal expert just someone who has done some domestic violence courses and I had friends in similar situations
My friend told her women's aid worker that her ex partner was abusing her they told the police behind her back the police rang her up and ask her if she wanted to have her ex partner charged she refused the police decided not to pursue it because it was against her wishes so I think in depends on the situation and whether they think it will stand in court, if it's just a few bad text messages maybe not but I think it depends if they are going for any of other things too but I think it helps you that you ex wife isnt supporting them.
Sorry I'm a little confused are you saying that the children are in foster care and they are looking at who it would be best for the children to live with?
Kids are with me now
Sorry I miss read your message, I can see why you are worried about the police, I think the best thing you could do is go and see a solicitor, (some solicitors offer free legal advice only for half a hour)
I would also look into getting a child arrangements order so it would be made official that the children stay living with you.
All the best to you
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