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I have been trying to land a job since June last year without success. I have had a number of interviews that have all gone well but have not led to anything further. On top of this, my ex-wife is struggling with her finances. She is a teacher but lives with her partner who also works. Between them they are the primary care givers to my two children although we split the parenting 50:50. I have been on JSA since I left work. Before I was made redundant I paid 20% of my income monthly to her. She says that she budgeted her mortgage on the 20% and now cannot fund household expenses (they need a new car which is an unplanned expense). I am trying very hard to land a new job but at 50yrs of age it is tough to land the right role for me especially given my niche experience in advertising/media. I am sure that if I landed a job that provided her with a small amount each month, she would ask for more money. When we divorced she took 60% of everything I owned including all my savings; shares; and pension. I am on anti-depressants and struggle with loneliness. I guess my question to the community is 1) should I be bullied into finding ANY job just to give her money??
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with depression and loneliness, t must be tough for you at the moment and her demands can't be helping.
As it stands, if you're not in a position to pay maintenance right now, try not to let her bullying get to you.
I think taking any job right now though is a separate issue, it might help just to get you back into the routine of work and also with your loneliness, but I wouldn't do it just to provide her with extra income. I'm sure, with two wages coming in they won't be struggling as much as you are at the moment...perhaps their new car will have to wait!
There's nothing to stop you from taking any job (within reason) and continuing to look for a position more suited to your experience and as said, it might help you on a personal level, I think keeping busy is helpful when dealing with depression and anxiety.
Best of luck
I agree. At the moment, you concentrate on what is best for you and take a job that you are comfortable with, rather than being pushed into one that is going to add to your depression. Your ex can always get a smaller or cheaper car if they need one, even if it's something to keep them going for a year.
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