Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
I have a 17 yr old stepdaughter that's shows no appreciation for everything I do for her as a stepdad. She shows no love, no appreciation and always has an attitude. I have done more than her real father has ever done for her. Her father doesn't do anything for her, takes her anywhere or even buys her anything. His excuse it that he is always broke! I have taken care of her when she has been sick, taken her to the doctor, getting her prescription filled, taken her temperature, giving her medications, taken her to school, to her job and many other countless other things. I always show her love but at this point I am ready to give up and disengage and not do anything g for her any longer. I have had many heart to heart talks with her but to noavail. In the past I have told her how fortunate she is to have a loving a caring stepfather like me because of everything I do for her and her response has been well that's what a step parent should do for their stepchild. What does everyone think I should do to show her how to show love, care or any type of appreciation? At this point I just want disengage and not do anything else for her.
Teenagers are just like that sometimes. Just carry on, but don't make too much of an issue of it, and certainly don't worry about it.
Best wishes,
O
Teenagers can be so insular and down right selfish. The fact that you're a step parent might make her attitude slightly worse but believe me, teenagers can come across just as uncaring with their bio parents too!
I think most parents of teenagers have been where you are now, thinking about disengaging and not doing anything for them anymore, but the next time she needs you or something happens where she needs support, I bet you'll be there for her....it's what parents do.
What does her mum say about it? Is she as badly behaved with her mum?
She'll grow up soon enough and once she starts experiencing what it's like to be taken for granted, once she gathers more life experience she'll begin to understand and her attitude will change. My daughter was a real handful at 17 but now at 30 she a lovely person and we couldn't be closer..... my partner and her long term step parent, would say the same.
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.