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Since my separation four and a half years ago I have spoken with my daughters 6 & 8 most days, recently I have been calling and not getting an answer. Since the legal battle it was agreed I would call at five or/and six and for the last six months actually getting to speak with them has declined. I text the ex to ask the best time to speak with my youngest on her birthday, some hours later was told to call at 6.30 which I did only to get the 'I am eating my dinner Dad', why would she not either feed the girls earlier or wait till after I have called (Which is what I do when they are with me so I know it is possible) anyway since then, now one week ago, I have called twice each day with no success. Just last night she text saying they didn't want to speak tonight, as you can imagine it hurt, I know the ex will not be supportive as I would be and she will also know it will be hurting me. She refuses to inform me of anything about what the girls do and this includes everything, I tried speaking with her regarding my eldest who's headteacher showed concern over her emotional state, I called and text and emailed but eventually got a text saying 'well I have spoken with the girls and they say they are all-right' astonshing that she would ask the girls about their own welfare. Anyway, any advice??? :boohoo:
Hi
There is no contact order in place and, as typical, the ex has parental responsibility. I am trying to establish if she has to keep me informed of what is happening with the girls like health and school matters. We always struggled to communicate even when we were married but surely when the welfare of children is at risk there is something that can be done to ensure she does inform me of things. Strange but even as I am typing this I am guessing she can do pretty much whatever she wants, all the time being in complete control....
Hi Mike
Know the feeling mate .Control that's what it's all about really sad that the "loving mother" use's her children as pawn's.My ex does pretty much the same as your's if it suit's "her" it happen's if it does not then it doesn't.I speak to my son most night's by telephone if i don't ring at 6.45pm on the dot it doesn't get answered he doesn't go to bed until 8.00pm.Regarding school i got a template letter from my solicitor asking for me to be informed of things regarding my son's schooling i.e Parent's evening's,School Trip's and generally any issue's regarding my son's education i have posted a copy of this on the "SCHOOLS" topic feel free to use it. You have not said if you have PR and you would have to have PR to use this letter.The Mother has automatic PR but the father doesn't ! if he was not married to the mother or his name was not on the birth certificate. They are quick to make you pay for your children because that's what a responsible parent should do never got my head round that one. Alway's remember they are not HER children they are your's as well and as any father would do you want the best for your girl's.I would if you can get some advice from a solicitor, you said "since the legal battle" does this mean you have a solicitor or you have been through the court's?
As i have said before F%^K"D UP PEOPLE DO F%^K"D UP THINGS.
Stick with it mate. 🙂
Hi Mike
If you don't have PR, then she can do pretty much as she likes. However, keep a diary of absolutely everything because if she doesn't consider you, then the courts take a dim view of such actions if it gets there. Do you think there is any chance your ex will consider mediation?
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