[Solved] Dad of twin boys just saying hello!

Hi Guy & welcome

Amazed that a mother could make that choice, but as you said, her loss.

Yeah, I was pretty surprised too!

In all honesty, it was something that had been building for a long, long time - my ex was always very much a 'career women' and falling for the twins was always something of an inconvenience and not what she really wanted - she had previously suggested on numerous occasions that I stay at home full time from work, which is why I went self-employed - to allow me to work from home instead, whilst she continued with her career progression...

It looks like I made far too good a job of it though really, because when the boys were 5yrs-old she was offered the chance of a beloved partner-position in Dallas and wanted us all to go too - unfortunately, having all my family and roots here in sunny England, I was lets say - less keen to go...likewise, the boys didn't really want to leave their home, grandparents, cousins, aunts & uncles etc behind and were pretty much dead set against it - and well, I suppose the rest is history...

Not wanting to go into any real detail, as I don't like airing my dirty laundry in public - but after various (protracted) legal battles - mostly over her wanting to take the boys to Dallas without my permission and pretty-much bankrupting me in the process of fighting her, it ended up with her filing for divorce on the grounds of MY unreasonable behavior - ultimately, she ended up going without us all anyway...although she says she still loves the boys and wants to see them whenever possible, she's only managed to get back over four times in the five years since she left - oh and she had the boys last year for just under 3-weeks during the school holidays - even though I had to take them to her...she did buy them lots of presents whilst we were there though too, just to prove how much she loves them!

Oh well - at least she still pays half their school fee's each term!

Hi Guy and welcome....lovely photo of your boys... And as actd says, her lose is your gain...what price you and your childrens happiness!

Hi Mojo,

Cheers for that mate - I'm glad you liked the photo's...I genuinely would have lost everything and happily lived in a tent, in the middle of a field to keep them...the house, cars etc were pretty easily replaced - the boys however, wouldn't have been!

Regards - Guy. 🙂

Hi There,
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Welcome to the forum, great pictures of the twins........the age old question is can you tell them apart Lol
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We welcome any advice for others and it seems as though you had a tough time and probably have plenty to share so please feel free to jump in head first and share your experience.
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GTTS

Hi GTTS!

Yes mate - its probably the No:1 question the parents of twins get asked that one - its also the question with the simplest answer...Yep - no problem at all!

As the parents of any twins etc would tell you - the first few weeks/ months were 'awkward' but we soon got to learn which twin was which...

There are actually ton's and ton's of subtle differences, such as - one of them (Tyler) tends to nibble his top lip, each carry themselves slightly differently whilst walking, they sound different answering a question, they hold their heads differently when thinking about the question and there's just those subtle little differences in their voices whilst talking in general...then there's the 'private & personal' differences that only a parent (or the other twin) will really know about - like each of their belly-buttons are different, as are their fingernails - whilst their hair grows slightly differently on each of their crown's...

I'm always happy to help out if I can fella - whilst I'm sure there are plenty of bods on here infinitely better qualified to answer any legal questions, I'm sure I can advise well when it come's to parenting twins etc - it was a hard-learnt path and one I'm still learning, but one I'm happy to share my knowledge of with anyone!

Kind Regards,

Guy.