Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hi all,
Im curious. Since being served last week, my ex is being nice. like really nice. Shes allowed me contact in the evenings at her house, says i can take our eldest to jujitsu and even allowed me to attend a parents evening.
Prior to this its been nothing. Just stonecold silence or bitching at me.
will this have a bad effect once it comes to court? Our hearing is in 3 weeks and i cant figure out her game.
shes tried all sorts of lies, even claiming DV etc. This change in behaviour is unnerving.
Thoughts?
I can imagine! It shouldn't have a bad effect when you get to court, it will if anything set the precedent and as contact had been re established then the court will expect it to continue to move forward.
You could suggest to her that you draw up a schedule together to present at court, this could then be written up into a Consent Order.... Sometimes when parents start to work together the court can make a No Order judgement. If this happens it will be up to you to show the court why this wouldn't work in the best interests of the kids and give reasons why an Order is the right thing to do.
As she is being so reasonable you might like to try and introduce a Parenting Plan, this covers every aspect of co parenting and you can find an excellent template for one in the stickys at the top of the Legal Eagle section called " CAFCASS Parenting Plans"
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.