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I feel for you Gunner.
It is too late now, but the moral of this is 'Never move out of the family house, never, never, never, however difficult life has become'. I know you were doing the right thing by your boys in moving out, but it would have been better in the long run to put up with it, achieve a shared residency order for you boys and force a sale of the 4 bedroom house in order for you to get sufficient equity to carry on. Unfortunately you will not receive any help from the state now (it has done its bit in making sure your two boys have a home: with their mother), and you can fend for yourself.
It is too late to retrace your steps now, but you are right, you will be paying for the 4 bedroom house until your boys are 18ish. Things will probably get a bit better as you put away some money and can perhaps get somewhere larger so your boys can stay (you will probably have to do that by the time they are teenagers as a one bedroom flat isn't going to attract them to stay at dad's place). Start saving some cash now, it will be difficult to get a mortgage when you are in your mid 50s.
I'm so sorry there has not been any good news here, the world is not a very fair place. Concentrate on being a good dad to your boys now.
Best wishes,
AO
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