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My scenario is I am a father of one with my ex and soon to be two with my current. I am paying through an agreement withy ex via csa calculation and have been since 2003. My son is now 18 and no longer wants any contact with me. I am not on speaking terms with the mother or her family. I have been told by csa that I need to pay until he finishes education. But how will I know when that is? And if I over pay I know I would never get it back. When I asked the csa how to find out they were less than useful telling me they would simply ask the mother, but as I stated to them she lies! Obviously I know I have to pay to support him just wondered if anyone else has this issue or has had it?
It's a common issue, and unfortunately there isn't a satisfactory solution - as long as the mother is claiming child benefit, then they will take the maintenance off you, even if she is claiming fraudulently (ie claiming when he isn't in education/apprenticeship) - you can ask them periodically to check , they should be able to do that directly.
Hi
Been thinking about this one myself but not got any answers.just what i would concider
i would firstly contact the school that the child went to,
Would they not have any information on there being any further education.
I would probably report the ex for benifit fraud if you believe it to be true and see what happens because the csa in this situation will be as much use as a chocolate teapot.
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