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I currently pay csa for my two children.
I have my children quite a bit (12 nights of the month avarage) and I currently pay around £160 for csa.
As much as it is a struggle to pay this much when it's hard enough to support my other finances but I do anyway as they are my kids too.
However it is asked of me to have my children for a week in the summer holidays and also a week over the Xmas period.
These are extra on top of my usual but I'm still paying her the same figure throughout the year even though I'm making up more time with my children.
I resently went away on a holiday and my ex had to have the children for longer than she normally does due to my absence.. for a return to her I paid her more than usual to make up for this.
We both agreed and we're happy to do it that way..
However, on those extra weeks that I have my children does that mean I am entitled to pay less to her as im then having them more? She agrees to me paying her more when she has them more but as soon as I say "ok ill pay -£xx when I have them more.
Hi there
Do you have a statutory arrangement through the CSA, or is your arrangement between yourselves?
If you have a statutory agreement via the CSA then it seems to me that your extra payments were at your discretion, at least that how the CSA would see it. They would not expect your ex to refund some of the payment she receives because you are are having them more than usual.
If the arrangement you have is family based then it would be up to you both to negotiate for changes to the contact schedule, like you did when she had them so that you could go on holiday.
Try talking to her about it, if she's reasonable she should appreciate that having them for extra time has a cost.
Good luck.
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