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Hi good evening
Ive been claiming csa payments for my son from my ex wife my son started working so I contacted the csa and child benefit and cancelled these payments. Csa did not inform my ex wife I had cancelled them. The ex continued to pay the csa she is now wanting 6 months of payments back. I have proof of these payments being cancelled am I responsible or the csa and if I'm responsible can I claim it back from the csa
Many thanks
I'm not too sure, but if you have proof that you informed the CSA of the change in your circumstances, I would try and argue that point with them. Was the money paid directly to you, or through the CSA? If it was a direct payment, they may argue that you should have returned any overpayments.
If the CSA deny their involvement and you refused to reimburse her, your ex would probably have to pursue a civil suit against you in the small claims court.
Yes the money was paid direct to myself. The CSA have admitted that its there mistake but said its between me and the ex. Think I might just pay her and have done with it.
I had a similar instance recently, where my ex paid an extra month in maintenance to me. I did wonder about fighting it, but in the CSA would have chased it on her behalf, and I decided that I didn't want to be in the position where I was forced to pay back and have her think she'd got one over me, so I paid it back gracefully.
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