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Hi,
I am looking for some advice me and my partner separated a year ago my son decided to stay with me he is 17, about six months ago my son decided he wanted to live with his grandparents whilst not ideal I continued to support him.
After a disagreement with his nan a week or so ago last week I received a CSA claim made by his nan for the sum of £571 per month whilst the calculation is correct I also put for his bus pass £80 gym £20 phone £50 and will not be able to do it all.
Also his nan has requested collect and pay which could add 20%.
My problem is not with the money but the fact his nan is appalling with money and I am sure he would not see much of a this at all, his grandad was not aware she had claimed she is a bit of a money grabber since this date my son has not answered his phone to me or responded to texts.
I don't mind paying what is due it will leave things right but so be it but I would rather pay a percentage to him and some to his grandad then I know it would be put to use, if I was to pay this much the bus pass etc would have to stop.
Is there a way I can sort this I just want the best for my son.
Hi There,
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As this has now been passed to CMS and they have been instructed to go through collect and pay, as far as I am aware there isn't anything you can do, unless his gran asks for the case to be closed and agrees to a private arrangement, even if his gran is bad with money, I guess they are feeding him and giving him a home, so the money will in some way get used for your son, If you are having to pay the CMS amount then there is no expectancy for you to continue to pay for the extras you have mentioned, that should then come from his gran through the money you pay.
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With regards to your son not speaking to you since this has happened it could be a case of being embarrased that his gran has taken this route.
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GTTS
It's not up to the gran to determine that this is to be paid through collect and pay - unless you have arrears, you should be paying by direct pay initially, so you won't get the extra 20% charge. I would speak to the CMS directly about this to get that bit resolved as that will be quite saving.
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