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Hi, i have a court date on the 1st of March, my first one, havent seen my son since Christmas and he's 6 months old.
The mother is still being nasty, i rang her up (from a hidden number) last week and i was really nice and i wanna just get on with her for my son, but she said "He don't even know who you are, now [censored] do one!", then she hung up. Im getting Legal Aid and they said i have a court date, im trying to get Parental Responsibility and regular Contact.
My mum has NEVER been in trouble with the law and she's in her 50's, however over christmas when my Ex partner was letting my mum look after him, my mum got drunk and got arrested at the bar (in the housing complex where she lives) with him, she wasnt actually drunk, but she was argumentative with the police and they said "We could arrest you for this you know" when they walked her home and because she's a staunch feminist and thought some men in the bar had a problem with her having a baby in a bar with her cos shes a woman, she said to the police "ok then arrest me" and they did.
She got given a Caution for being drunk with a minor, and spent a night in the cells.
This has made me thoroughly saddened by my mums behaviour as it has come at the wrong time, she's never been arrested before in her life and i think she got drunk because she has been under alot of pressure recently due to many factors (no excuse but), oh and, Social Services informed my ex partner and my mum got a letter saying that shes not permitted to look after my son without my ex's permission.
What affect will this have on me?
My ex has an 8 yr old from a previous relationship and has even had him taken away from her for a few days before i was ever on the scene.
I WAS NOT with my mum when she had my son, i didnt even know she had him.
Dont judge my mum, shes never been arrested before and my ex constantly gets drunk and does drugs but isnt as naive as my mum.
How will this affect me and do you guys have any advice and tips on how approaching the court?
Hi there
This is an unfortunate turn of events and couldn't have come at a worse time for you. It's bound to be brought up by your ex during CAFCASS interview so damage limitation is probably the best course of action.
IWhen asked about it don't be defensive, be open and tell them what happened as you have here. If they want assurances that your mum won't have unsupervised contact with your son then give them that assurance.
But seeing as i dont have parental r for my son and it was my ex's decision to let her look after him, and, i wasnt there.
Why should it affect me so much, this is making me so deprerssed
I would certainly argue the point that you weren't involved in the decision, and you weren't aware the contact took place until afterwards. I would certainly say that you suggest that for the future, any contact with your mother should have you present at the same time - that way you get contact as well.
I agree... You should argue the point if t is brought up.
I didn't mean to alarm you and if you remain calm and state that you had nothing to do with the decision, the court should accept that...just expect to be asked about it and be open in your responses.
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