[Solved] contact with 4 month old baby

Hi

Have you had the court forms signed off by a mediator? This is mandatory before a court will accept an application.

The court will try to get the mother to agree a way forward and if this cannot be achieved the court will make the decision for you.

Nobody can predict what an individual court will decide, but generally for babies, it's usually little and often and then build from there.

Please keep posting and we will do what we can to support you.

Best of luck

thank you i will and apreciate all the advice just feel so alone at the min

Hi,

Your not alone mate, not with this site, they are all great and have helped me and may others massively.

I was in a similar situation 3 years ago, aslong as there are no mitigating circumstances you will get access no probs.

Some huge advice though, be nice to the mother, it may be hard but please act like a puppy as no matter what anybody says on this site, mothers are as powerful as the courts, thats a fact.

Good luck

Paul

i have done everything she asked i have been polite all the time and still gettin no where i have no idea why she feels the need to hurt me the way she is with my daughter she is the one that ended it and i havnt tryed to change her mind but has turned really nasty when all i did is walk away like she asked me to

It's probably best to keep a low profile now that there are court proceedings about to start. I'm surprised you weren't required to try mediation, this is usually the first step. The court may instruct you both to attempt mediation to try and sort it out.

It's always a good idea to ask the court on the application form. for an interim order for contact, they would then allow extra time to discuss this at the first hearing. It's likely that you and your ex will be encouraged to reach some form of agreement before you go into the courtroom, perhaps once she realises how seriously you take your parenting role she will back down.

It's also a good idea to write a brief two page position statement to take with you to the hearing, just to outline what has happened and what you would like the court to do....keeping it all about your child and avoiding any negativity about the mother.

Because your child is still very young, the court will want to see a schedule of increasing contact, starting with shorter visits , which will increase over a period of months.

You might also like to work on a CAFCASS parenting plan, this is a good way to get some guidelines agreed about all aspects of co parenting.

All the best

sorry forgot to say i did mediation and the babys mom didnt turn up on all 3 occasions i have tryed everything to make this work

hello mate , i no you did your best, same as me, but if i can give you any advice its stay away from your ex, i didnt and got hit very hard , by alligations, of hers, and like you ive not seen my baby in 11 months, it breaks up up, take care and let us no how its going,

I agree with the above, it's definitely better to keep a low profile and let the court do their work. You don't want to give the mother any excuse to accuse you of harassment or make any other allegations.