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[Solved] Contact Order Breached AGAIN?

 
(@Spursy_1)
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Hi There,

I'm looking for some advice on what steps to take next, My ex has made up another excuse that our daughters ill again and has broken contact with the arranged time that she set of 10am boxing day, as our contact order states we are to equally have half of every holiday and bank holidays. Since the contact order was created, I was made to go through contact centres due to false allegations and manipulation from her of abuse which she had no evidence for!

Again she has stopped contact, I have done all the right things by our daughter and she seems to be on a bitter quest to ruin my life. There has been many occasions the three noticeably are;

1. After all the contact sessions I was due to have my daughter in August Bank Holiday Weekend first time staying over which she wrote to the courts to get it cancelled and they refused her the right to cancel saying that contact will and should go ahead ( found this out by contacting the court and was advised by them that they sent out a letter!) only to receive a message saying she was ill and no willingness to make re arrangements her excuse was that the doctor said the child is to go nowhere near anyone (which is ridiculous as I'm more than capable of looking after my child).

2. Every other Wednesday she is to drop her to me for 2 hours and on this Wednesday she decided that she wasn't going to inform me that she wasn't going to be there and I received a text the next day apologising and saying that she had an emergency and her battery died but didn't state what this emergency was?

3. Doesn't re arrange any contact missed and shows a complete lack of willingness to allow our daughter to spend any extra time with me if I happen to miss contact due to unforeseen circumstances like work.

4. Agreed a time of 10am with me for boxing day, and text me three days prior saying that she's been around her cousin with chicken pox, and that I should have calpol in but only text me 30 minutes prior to contact that she is really ill and doesn't want to come to see me, saying I can call her and speak to her, even seeing her at her mums house but there has been many conflicts between me and her bitter drug abusing, narcisstic mum so I am not falling in to that trap again! So I called her and she sounded very distressed and I can hear people in the background telling her to say she doesn't want to come and it felt as though she was being teased/taunted because she was on the phone to me.

5. I have consistently since court been asking for her educational information like what nursery she goes to and been given the run around with a fake nursery and no reply since.

These women are disgusting lowlife scumbags who will stop at nothing to stop me and my daughter from having contact, surely as she is breaking the contact I can apply to court for emergency enforcement of an order as I just recently lost my position at work I am currently unemployed and as private renting would be no way to raise the sort of cash needed to apply?

Please can I have some advice/help towards what I should do next because I have previously contacted the child services/police and nobody seems to want help but advise me to take it back to the courts, I am so angry and emotionally upset that these women are continuously allowed to provoke me and use my daughter in this way,

I think it's disgusting how mothers are protected in this sense and children are put through this abuse, and I'm a perfectly able loving dad who wants to raise his daughter...

Regards

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Topic starter Posted : 27/12/2016 12:34 am
 Yoda
(@yoda)
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Hi

totally agree this should not be allowed to happen and understand how you're feeling.

You can apply to the court for enforcement using a form C79. It costs 215, should be listed within 4 weeks and doesn't require you to attend mediation.

Try and stay child focused though and make sure your application to the court and any statements you submit are calm and from the point of view of your child.

best wishes

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Posted : 27/12/2016 1:25 pm
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