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the mother and family are refusing to bring my daughter this saturday for a visit as ive been arguing with them
what can i do..
i have a court order in place for a contact centre!!
Hi There,
At this short notice I think you would struggle to get anything done for this weekend, if this is a regular thing then you would need to apply to the court for an enforcement order to ensure they keep to the arrangement in future.
What I would do though is turn up at the arranged time and place this weekend anyway just in case they turn up, as they will be able to say you didn't show, if your contact is at a contact centre you can then speak to someone there and ask them to log that you were there as arranged but they didn't show up, this will help you with an enforcement order if needed in the future.
GTTS
thanks for the quick reply..
its the contact centre we are mediating through
..so the centre know very well shes trying to cancel as they are the ones who informed me..
so theres no point in going
ok thanks again
🙂
Has she given a reason why there's no contact? Try not to get into any arguments over it as one word or a text that she doesn't like then she can get you done for harassment so be careful.
If it doesn't go ahead just log it down as the judges frown upon contact been missed so you might have to take it on the chin and keep the piece, my ex cancelled 3 times on me and I got her back in court that was enough to kick her into touch.
Ex's seem to cancel contact every now and again just to show a bit of control and to get a reaction out of you so don't play into her hands my ex tries it on all the time I've tried to not react to anything she throws at me she then realises it's pointless to get a rise out of me then she plays ball.
how long have you got left at the contact centre? if she does it again write to the courts 🙂
It might be advisable to write her, or her solicitor if she has one, to point out that she is in breach of the order by cancelling contact at the centre and that if it happens again at the next session you will have no choice but to write to the court and request that the case is bought back in front of the judge for urgent new directions.
If you are still going through court then send a,copy of the letter to the court for filing. If court is finished then keep a copy of the letter so that you can attach it if you have to write to the court to reopen the case.
Best of luck
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