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Hi I’m looking for advice has some of you already know I’m a single mum with a 6 year old son .my son has limit contact with father he’s been asking me for more contact with dad because he really misses his dad the contact was at a fortnight rate and now it’s monthly, his dad is telling him not me that I could put the contact up if I wanted to without a court order it’s my choice, on the court order is monthly it went down to monthly because he wasn’t turning up to the contact, i know if you want to reduce contact you need to get a order but what about increasing it does anyone know?
Thanks in advance
Hi I was looking on the internet it says that if I put in writing and sign it that I want increase contact I can without a court order is this correct
does anyone know? I just thought I had to stick to the order and take it back to court if I wanted to change it. Tia
hi,
think of the court order as a default/minimum contact agreement. there is nothing stopping both parents from making their own agreements on top of this. the courts like to encourage that.
you can increase contact for your childs dad, as long as both of you agree. see how it goes. my ex does not give me 1 extra hour of contact time lol. and thats why i am going back to court to get more time. you only go back to court if both of you can not agree.
Hi again,
Bill is right - your court order gives the default or baseline position, but changes can be made to this as long as you both agree with these changes, otherwise you would both have to stick to what it says in the order. Both parties have to show willingness when it comes to making changes (with consideration taken for the interests of the child also), it shouldn't be one-sided. I showed some flexibility at the beginning, but it soon became clear it wasn't going to be reciprocated, so now we just stick with the order as is.
I would try emailing your ex about increasing contact or speaking to him in person if you can without conflict.
You can let your son see his dad whenever he wants , however it should be consistent set times and date so your son don't feel let down.
It might be now son is getting older that dad wants to see him more often and no longer wants to be unreliable. some dads change some don't as child gets older.
A good way of allowing more contact for your son is if he collects him from school for play and supper or even pick up from school and drop back to school in morning. I am sure your son wants to see his dad more than once a month ,but also he has to always turn up when your son is expecting him too.
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