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My ex gave up the teacher training days in his proposed contact if I agreed that hols started on the Friday,meaning he would pick up from school.I never wanted teacher training days to be included in the contact agreement as they were subject to being cancelled. Teacher training day now on first day back to school, ex refusing to bring kids back despite already being in contempt of court which is another story and he has been warned by court that he could go to jail for what he has done. I have emailed him of the fact that kids will have a 15 day stretch with him, and two nights at home. Kids have been expressing v bad behaviour recently,more so when access with ex iminent! I have asked ex to consider kids feelings-no response!!!!!!!!!!!!! Any views welcome, as I do not know what is the best course of action.Ex has taken me back to court 7 times in total, has refused mediation. I have tried my best to communicate but have either had no response, or ex does what he wants. It is the kids that are suffering and I feel that I can do nothing about it.Thanks in advance x
Hi BooBoo
I'm at a loss what to suggest at the moment, except that it might be worth having a word with the court about the contempt to see whether they think it's worth going back.
Hi Actd,
I asked them a few months ago about ex being in contempt of court and they told me that I needed to get my solicitor to apply to court. My ex actually told the kids that he intended to get every penny from the divorce settlement back, he has managed to get a fair chunk back by continually taking me back to court. We are still in rented accommodation because it! He told the kids he get £4000 pcm and after he pays me £*** he only has £20 left. I get than 10% of that from ex ( I am not complaining,however to tell the kids about financial stuff is not what he should be doing) He pays himself dividends, min wage, and gets working tax credits, plus cash in hand for other financial services.
Because he is a bully I tried to self represent once and it was terrible, hence I decided to get a solicitor on my side.
He is currently trying to get more evidence on me to make me look bad, in the hope the the contempt of court will be over shadowed and he's started putting my calls back on speaker phone which has been encouraged by his partner-the one who tried to get me sacked from my job last year.
Fed up with it all!
I bet you are Boo...he sounds like the ex from [censored]!
I wish there was some advice I could give but I guess you just have to keep chipping away.
Have you spoken to the school about the children's behaviour? It might help if you can correlate this to them spending more time with him.
I have spoken with school, they are aware of the situation and what an idiot the ex is. But they say legally they cannot get involved with putting anything on paper re behaviour as they claim they don't see any of it!
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