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So me and my ex wife have not talked since last year of June. All the reasons due to because of our past and her new boyfriend who I think now may be her husband. She told me in June last year to stop talking to her. I did because there was ALOT of drama going on and I couldn't handle it. She has my son and I just recently started paying child support offline. Nothing court ordered. I want to talk to her and try to co parent to see my son.
We haven't talked in months. How can I start off this conversation???
hi,
lots of tips here: https://www.wikihow.com/Regain-an-Estranged-Ex%27s-Friendship
I look through that website it was more based off trying to get back together. I only want to communicate and be cordial with her so we can co parent or at least get to see my soon again. I don't want her to think I am trying to get back with her or any wrong impression.
Hello RicoE24,
I think I personally would send a letter or email. Keep a copy if you do for your own reference and protection in the future just in case you go to court to gain contact with your child.
I would keep it simple, polite and child focused.
I would right something like :-
I love my Son and would like to have contact so that I may be part of his life. I am sure you agree that our Son has the right to have his Father in his life also.
I respect the fact you have a new life as I do too. However, we do have a child together and our Son, I am sure you will agree, needs both his Mother and Father in his life to aid his development and well being. We both want a happy healthy child.
I would appreciate if you would consider my request to have contact with ( child's name ) and that we can come to an amicable agreement as to making arrangements.
I look forward to your reply.
Regards,
(your christian name)
PLEASE NOTE RicoE24 with the current coronavirus crisis contact is difficult for many fathers due to the lock down. Even those with Court Orders are foregoing seeing their children due to the concern they have for their children's safety and welfare plus their extended family.
It does not mean to say you should delay writing to your Ex, I think you should write but the climate at present is not good with regard to having or expecting physical contact. Those who have been having contact regularly are now using the telephone, skype etc to maintain contact with their children.
Thank you I just want to at least be able to video call. I know I may not be able to physically see him, we are in two different states. That is fine. I would be happy to video call him as much as I can.
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