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I have to attend Family Court to arrange contact with me and my two kids (9 + 11)
This is to iron out the details of when and how I get to see them in the community. All parties are in agreement but with one snag:
I am not allowed to have direct contact with the mother for the next two years.
Although a public handover with an open distance between us has been agreed, we have no way of relating essential information to each other. For example; change of times, sickness etc. We do not share any common friends and both our parents are not a reliable option.
We have gone through contact centers and Caffcass and are ready to move onto the next step.
Any suggestions for a third pard way of messaging that would not involve direct contact please?
I went for a few months when the ex refused to speak to me, but agreed to exchange information regarding our child in a notebook. The notebook always traveled with the child, and each parent would write down relevant information about his well being. In our case it was helpful, but it only works when both parties use sensibly, ie, only write about the child well being, neither parent can use it to attack the other.
That is a top idea, I will bring that up as a suggestion.
Thanks
Hi There,
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Contact books are a good way to exchange info and as said if packed within a bag that the child takes too and from then it can be kept quite simple.
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GTTS
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