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So i have recently obtained an interim arrangment through court for my children to see me every other Saturday as part of a reintroduction after 9 months without seeing them after their mum stopped access. The final hearing is in a few months. The s.7 report from CAFCASS stated that their mum had withheld access and told the children untruths as to why i wasn't around.
I have had one Saturday with the children and tomorrow was due to be the second day. With the COVID-19 virus, i have suggested that this Saturday, the children dont come over and we skype a few timed over the next couple of weeks instead.
The children's mum has said no to Skype as she doesn't want me to see inside her home and claims i am a domestic abuser, which is a false allegation. She says that she will offer them a phone for when they want to speak to me on the Saturday only.
I was then criticised to not offering to help with home schooling, offering food, handwash etc. Bearing in mind the mum has wanted me to have nothing to do with schooling etc and has actively tried to stop me being involved in anything to do with the girls for the last 12 months, i find her criticism for not co-parenting now very harsh. Just another points scoring to try and use in the final hearing.
I will always help with supplies or whatever is needed and would love to have the children more but hope it is clear that i felt that mum will never offer this extra time/contact, just use it against me (i.e. not suitable as a parent). I have a son with my partner so can parent, just struggle when i have no idea what the other party really wants i.e. no communication from them.
I am a bit lost on what to do now to be fair. Do i just be the bigger person, say if the girls need anything let me know.
hi,
am very surprised. I am in the total opposite situation to you! my ex has used the virus/lockdown to completely stop me seeing the kids. telling me only option is for me to give her a phone and pay for data. if i were you, i would dump the phone contact option and just take your kids with you on the saturday. you have not seen your kids in months, so important to re-build the relationship. this is better for you. avoids any unneccesary communication with your ex, where arguments can start, and she will try use that against you in court.
family court/cafcass given guidelines and stated that kids from separated parents can be moved to/from parents homes. just take precautions and assess the risk.
Thanks Bill. My only concern was my partner is a nurse at hospital and although she doesn't work with the virus and we are all fit and well at our house, i would hate if somehow we gave my children the virus.
The messages from her are just something she will try and use at final hearing. It is all quite ridiculous
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