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hi, my partner has 4 children from his previous marriage.
They now live with their uncle ( their mother's brother) as their mother left them and started a new family and now has 2 more kids.I have 2 children from previous relationship and one with my partner.We wanted his kids in our care but unfortunatelly we havent got the accomodation for 7 children and my partner would have to quit his job because i would not with 7 children on my own.I have stage 4 cancer so not well enough to look after them all...He has always been paying for his children but they have gone to cms to get more from him....The kids mother doesnt pay any child support and everything is expected from my partner....We have our own bills to pay and 3 children living with us...The more he earns the more he will have to pay and the more they will take of my 3 children......Is there anything we can do about this? if both parents are responsible to pay for their kids why is his ex wife getting away with not paying? My partner wants to help but this is too much...Any advice please?
Unfortunately, as the children live with his ex brother in law, it's entirely up to him whether or not he claims maintenance from his sister. If he is claiming against your partner, then that will be reduced to some extent by the fact that he has dependant children living with him, but beyond that, the CMS stick to the calculations. It might be worth you contacting the MacMillan Fund to see if they can help.
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