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Hi all,
I am new to this and I should have joined sooner but I’ve tried to deal with it head on.
For the last 6 years I’ve been dealt with all sorts of nonsense from my child’s mother, controlling behaviour, narcissism, threats, blackmailing and gas lighting behaviour. I have done my best to bite my tongue and not retaliate but I am at the point where I really cannot be bothered with the games anymore.
The most recent episode has been CMS, I have been paying this for 5 months now, never missed a payment. But on this occasion I was told that if I didn’t pay early I’d be reported on the day. That’s even if I had sent it on given day. This is a manual transaction as sometimes the date falls on a weekend as expected but I recieve messages in the early hours of the morning whilst asleep that the money hasn’t gone into the receiving parents bank account. Obviously I’m asleep and I send the funds over as soon as I’m awake.
I really need help to counter this it is draining the life out of me.
thanks in advance!
hi,
as long as you pay on the date in the CMS payment plan, you should be fine. set up a standing order/direct debit, so its done automatically. if she is the one sending messages at odd hours, put phone on do not disturb mode at night. and you could politely inform her to contact CMS for any queries, as they are managing the payments.
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