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Can anyone help me. I'm unemployed and became a carer for my partner this past year. My ex has made an application for child maintenance but I'm jointly on my partners claim for esa and all payments go into her account including the carers allowance, so I have no income in my account and because of my family set up now, we can not afford to lose anymore money as we already in financial difficulties because of costs against food bills and the usual bills and increasing living costs. My current partner does not agree to have to pay for a child that's not her own and and does not want money to come out of her account. Can cms take money from another account which is not connected to me without permission despite being on a claim. Its not of not wanting to pay but it would financially make it worse for us. I've been told a flat rate to pay but depending on circumstances I could end up paying nil. Can anyone help. Stressed out dad needs help please
You need to speak to CMS - I would think you could either be assessed for the nil rate, or the flat rate which is £7 per week. Strictly speaking, if you care getting the carer's allowance, that money should be going to you so it would be reasonable that the CMS would see that as your money - having it go into your partner's account won't change that. As I said, you need to speak to CMS to find out exactly what benefits will give you the nil rate or the flat rate and then work it out from there.
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