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Hello All,
I hope I'm not the only one and wonder if anybody has ever had this anoying issue.
I have my 5 year old every other weekend Friday 17.00 to Sunday 17.00 and me and my ex get on okay for the most part but everytime I pick him up she always says while my son is stood right next to me "You will have to ask daddy if you want new toys as I'm always getting you toys" Or "I'm sure daddy will get you a McDonalds on the way home"
I don't find this fair because we are seperated and live in separate home so while I've got him on my weekend I like to enjoy the outdoors and enjoy time which is more precious than material things,I've never been a spender but I do treat him with gifts but don't like the idea of buying gifts for just to keep my ex happy don't seem right feels fake rather than natural.
Even when i go abroad on lads holiday she will say "maybe daddy will get you some toys"but I'm stood there thinking "IM IN SPAIN WHAT TOYS CAN I POSSIBLY BRING BACK"haha
Hi,
If you get on well enough with your ex, why not just tell her out of earshot of your son, and in as non-accusing a way as you can that these comments put you on the spot, and could lead to disappointment for your son. She's perfectly entitled to be buying him stacks of toys if she wants, but your son now lives in two different household where there are usually some differences.
My son talks about things he does in his mum's care - computer games, staying up later, fizzy drinks, watching films with older ratings - none of which I allow, and has over the years come to learn that his parents do some things differently and that's okay. He knows he has lots more toys at his mum's and lots more comics and books at his dad's, but shouldn't necessarily expect a replication of his things at both houses.
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