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My ex partner and I have an 11 year old son. She has moved to England and I am no longer in contact with him due to various issues. I entered a new relationship and realised recently when we went to combine our finances that the maintenance payments had stopped- and hadn't been paid for nearly 3 years. I phoned the CMS who suggested I should launch a new case if I wish to start paying again. Now, I am completely in favour of fathers paying for their children - regardless of whether they are in contact or not - but his mother is very wealthy (earns over 3x my wages) and I am fairly sure she hasn't even noticed that I haven't been paying her. If I just don't open the case again what will happen? If she discovers I have (through no fault of my own - it just happened!) not been paying, will she be eligible for backpayments? What if she discovers it when he is say 20? I just want to know all my options before I proceed.
Thanks
Hi There,
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I would be concerned that they will come after you for the back payments, Have CSA said that the case has been closed? If they are willing to put that it is closed in writing then hopefully that would cover you against any back payments being claimed.
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GTTS
In my opinion, you stay quiet, but save the money you would have been paying (actually, slightly more so you are catching up) into an investment (or overpay your mortgage) so that if you do get chased, you can lay your hands on the money reasonably quickly.
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