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Hi can anyone help, I have a 16 year old son who has decided for the last 10 months to stay at his girlfriends house with her parents even know countless times I have asked him to go back to his mums or even better to come live with me. He has refused and now my last resort was to say go to a family home or I will stop matinince payments as I am not paying for you to stay with your girlfriend at 16. I have no support from his mum,so now I am the bad guy. His mother insists I still pay her maintenance for her to give to my son, in order for him to pay the girlfriends mother! I contacted CMS and they said they will investigate, now I know all they do is ask her if all this is true, she will disagree, tell them it's a lie and therefore continue to make me pay. The CMS therefore take her word but not mine. I have sent them evidence ie text messages from my son and girlfriend mum stating that he is living there and they said they can not accept the evidence from social media and I am to make payments. i dont mean to make it about money but he is 16 and lives with his girlfriend he is far to young and i dont agree can anyone help with advice.
hi,
CMS said they will investigate, but have feeling nothing will come of it. they will expect you to pay maintenance until he leaves/finishes full-time education, up until start of uni.
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