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When we separated I didn’t work out how much maintenance I should pay before telling my ex wife how much I would pay her.
How would you approach an ex wife to explain you have been paying to much (£100+) compared to the website calculation and you need to lower the payments as it is by within your budget ( I have been using the sale of the house money to help budget )?
Hi there
Many Dads pay more than they are required to, but it needs to be affordable, using your savings for child maintenance isn’t good.
Without knowing your ex wife, it’s difficult to advise you on a specific approach. Are you able to sit down and talk to her, without there being any bad feeling?
The way I see it you’ve got a couple of options, you can try and talk to her about it directly, armed with print outs of the relevant information from the CMS calculator and fresh proposals.
You can send her the relevant information by post an ask she would agree to meet to discuss your new proposals.
You can contact the CMS and open a case with them to pay your ex the correct amount. It would cost a £20 admin fee. But you could go on Direct pay and avoid any collect and pay charges.
A note of warning, some receiving parents will reduce overnight stays between the child and the paying parent, to increase the amount of maintenance they receive. She won’t be happy to have the amount reduced, so expect some flack. Of course you can agree to share the extra cost of school trips etc to soften the blow.
Best of luck
hi,
yes you could try sit down and reason with her, or through phone. tell her your struggling etc. if you end up signing up with CMS, it is better you do not mention to her things like, your maintenance payments will reduce depending on how many nights you get with kids. try to reach a reasonable and affordable agreement with her. see what happens.
Hello,
They could talk and comment, first always with dialogue. If you do not want to reason you can always consult a lawyer
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