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Hi I need some advice please.
I have 3 kids. Two of which i pay privately for and one goes through the CSA as she hates me! (that's her choice) My payments went up in April so I told the CSA about the other kids I pay privately for but I have had a letter saying they have information that I don't pay for my other kids (I think my ex has phoned them to dispute what I have said) I pay the mams cash though so how can I prove it?
I think my ex has disputed that I pay for one of my other daughters but how can they prove it? If they contact the mother of the daughter I pay cash for it could affect me seeing my daughter as we don't have a great relationship anyway and she wants nothing to do with the CSA our arrangement works but now my ex is making accusations that I don't pay so she can have extra money?!
I am lost as to what I can do!?.......
Hi there
Could you get a one off letter from the mother that you pay cash to, to say that you pay regularly?
If not, could you ask her to accept payments via bank transfer or standing order, so that you have proof you’re paying?
Hi
Thanks for your suggestion. I could ask her, how would they verify it though? She just doesn't want to have anything to do with the CSA at all and my payments to them for my other child going up aren't really her problem, our relationship is rocky anyway....I have always paid her cash it just works better for her and she doesn't want any change, we barely speak anyway!
I just feel so annoyed my ex is causing issues!
Thanks
They may take the letter at face value, she could perhaps write that she does not wish to be contacted further.
Setting up payment via the bank would be in itself proof, so would probably be a better way of doing it.
Thanks for your advice!
So annoyed about it to be honest.... It looks like I am forced to speak to her which is something we have not done for years as it always ends up in an argument and in me not seeing my daughter.
Thanks again
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