[Solved] Child Arrangement Order.

Dear All,

I had a fact finding hearing earlier this month and the did not make any findings. Judge also called us back in 4 weeks time and told my ex that supervised contact should stop and supported contact in the community should start as soon as possible. My ex agreed with this and I am taking my little daughter out next week. Cafcass said that he is going to make his recommendations and ask me to think about how the contact should progress. Cafcass said that ny daughter is 2.5 years old and I should think along the lines of 1 over night every week. Can I ask if this is fair? I wanted to see my daughter more than 1 over night. Cafcass said that I can request to see during the week but only till tea time. Please let me know what your thoughts are?

Kind Regards

Hi Arman,

have not seen you post on here for a while. Good to have you back. what cafcass suggested about 1 overnight is a good start. you should suggest it to be a gradual process until you can have your child for whole weekends. during my hearings it progressed from 1 night every other weekend, to fri-sun every other weekend. don't stick with 1 night a week as permanent solution. it will become restrictive if you want to take your child to an amusement park or seaside etc. you need more time.

you should try ask for mid-week overnights. i wanted mid-week overnights but cafcass didnt recommend it. so i end up spending time with kids after school for few hours. also think a few years down the line. when you want to take your child on holidays abroad/passport issues. get something like this put in your order.

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Hi Guys,

Very happy Easter to everyone. I would just like to say that I won my Finding of fact hearing last year in November. Since then my ex wife has been really supportive and I am seeing my little daughter almost every other day. I honestly can't say thank you enough to this platform. I am here if anyone needs my help or want me to share my experience especially with regards to fact finding hearing. I am one lucky father and pray for every single one of you. Stay strong and I am sure you will get there.

Take care!

hi arman,

good to see your posts again. congratulations. were the allegations serious for fact find? also how do you manage with your job?

seems like my new employers will want to kick me out, because they don't like my school pick ups on a wednesday and fridays (both alternating).

Hi Bill337,

Thank you for your email. No the allegations were not serious at all if anything, they were laughable. With regards to second part of your question, I was keep booking half days from work. Then, I spoke to my ex wife and said look I am working for our daughter to provide her a good life. Can you please let me see her every other day for couple of hours till 7pm and can I please have her every weekend and she understood and said yes. I finish work at 4pm every day so I get to see her till 7 on weekdays. My ex does school pdrops and pick ups. I can honestly see where you are coming from. When I used to do school pickups or drop-offs my employer used to make me feel really uncomfortable. Are you in a good terms with your ex? I would say try speaking to her and see what she says about you not doing pickups?

Thanks

hi,

i am on bad terms with ex. its been nearly 4 weeks and i have had no contact with kids. 1st video call tommorow lol. cafcass did S7 report and in it she is recommending me to do school pick ups, to avoid issues at ex's home. more annoying court hearings...

@Mojo so I would like to ask I have a section 7 just completed but in this report there are a number of inaccurate points and certainly some that seem completley irrelevant and certainly a sense of one sided views. What happens next 

@missingmykids4l Hi. sadly Mojo passed away after a period of ill health.

with your S7 report, did cafcass make any recommendations for child contact?

usually cafcass state that if there is anything in the report that you disagree with, you would have to raise this in court. if they made simple errors such as getting names and dates of birth wrong, then you can ask them to correct it.

@bill337 Hi bill sorry to hear this about Mojo no they got a lot wrong and in some ways almost looks like quite a damming report, with a lot of inconsistences I believe they clearly are not impartial but merely biased and have not confirmed any of the conversations with my kids, this person has merely submitted his report to the courts informing them I influence my children to say things and get them to write on themselves so as not to forget things they need to tell this person. Or that when they are at my house I shout and am angry, or that I ignore one of my children and do not take them anywhere or talk to them. I would say there is a lot of inconsistences 

@missingmykids4l ok. but did cafcass make any recommendations, like if/when you should see children? I have been through 2 s7 reports myself. I usually ignored the inconsistencies, and focused more on what arrangements they recommended, as that is what the courts will rely on heavily when they make decisions.

@bill337 Whilst I am conscious that ------- has stated that he would like to live with his
father as his primary carer, I do not feel that this would be the best outcome at this
time. As evidenced within this report, ------- would be separated from his brother
and moved away from the key professional support networks that have been built
up over many years that ensure his learning and health needs are consistently met
to a high standard. I am also concerned that ------- may have experienced some
parental influence regarding his wishes and feelings. ----- has stated that he does
not want his care arrangements to change, and I am of the view that it would be
emotionally damaging for him to be separated from his brother. With that in mind
the court should consider keeping the current order in place which states that the
children live with their mother and spend time with their father

Given that ----- and ------- have both stated that they would like to spend more
time with their father, the court could consider extending the time the boys spend
with their father during school holidays. Furthermore, when ------- does not have
any extracurricular activities planned on a weekend where he is due to be with his
mother, he could spend an additional time with his father

This is the third hearing in the last 18 months and the court should consider
making a 91.14 order which would require Mr Grace to obtain the permission of the
court before making any further applications. Given that there are concerns around
parental influence which could be considered emotionally harmful, the current
professional network around ------- will need to monitor whether the end of
proceedings brings an improvement for ------- and his behaviour, and if it does
not, a referral to the Local Authority may need to be considered.

There is no further role for Cafcass at this time as the appropriate advice has been
given to court. There are no special measures required for this case currently.

Have a read for your self I have of course removed kids names but this is basically their recommendations