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Hi,
My pshyco ex doesn’t like the fact I’m in a new relationship and trying everything to ruin it.
Now she telling me that if I don’t send my child maint first thing of morning I get paid she will get it taken straight out my wages. I work a 6am-2pm shift and I then pick kids up from school at 3 and then I will work all out and send money over.
Went straight out with kids today so was unable to work out and send over. Now she saying she will get them to take directly out meaning more fees will come out due to what they charge.
Can she do this?? Even though every single month, on payday I send the money over.
To me she is just trying to be awkward and [censored] me off even more.
Thanks
If your paying every month via CMS then you can't be forced to be on collect and pay,I would give them a call to get 100% clarification.
I avoided the CMS all together by sucking upto my ex and being all nice ,giving her lifts(nobody else can help her),and I sold a private arrangement by saying that I will pay every Sunday night without fail but if she wants it earlier I can do this,
You must be smart and play the game,when the kid is 16 or 18 they will end up seeing you when they want,life's goes quickly enjoy as much as you can and eventually nothing she does will affect you if anything she will maybe find a way to get on with you,if you play the good tactic
ignore nonsense from the ex. at the start of CMS arrangement you would have decided when you make payments, so just stick to that and carry on as usual. let her waste her time ringing up CMS. if you feel threatened or harrassed, can always report it to police.
She’s angry because your in a new relationship and just wants to keep some control over you... it’s hot air in my opinion.
If you pay through the CMS you would have to go into arrears before they would put you on collect and pay, being a couple of hours late wouldn’t count.
If you don’t pay through the CMS, she would have to open a claim and even then couldn’t ask for collect and pay until you actually went into arrears, so either way, I don’t think you have much to worry about.
All the best
Thanks for your replies. We do t do anything through CMS we had an agreement between us that I will bank transfer each payday for the month previous depending on how many days I had them.
All of it is just her way on controlling me and I know I bow down too much as she then threatens me with not being to see the kids.
Last year out of my holiday entitlement I had 1 day booked off for myself and I had kids every weekend so 1 day for myself to do something.
Next month I planned to go away with my new partner to a friends wedding in Czech, but it falls on weekend which are supposed to be my days and again this is just a verbal agreement. Am I being bad by telling her she can have them for 1 weekend and this is the only weekend I will have ‘off’ to have some time for myself and enjoy a friends wedding? Or because they are ‘my days’ am I being bad by not having the kids??
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