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Hi I was wondering if someone can help. It was my first hearing at court today and it was adjourned as my ex made false alligations.
I travelled 200 miles to go to court for the sake of 5 minutes there. I can't afford to travel back and forth.
My ex has stopped all contact between myself and my 3 year old. I can't afford a solicitor and I've seen my daughter for 2 hours in seven months. She came with her solicitor which I knew nothing about as I received no C7 or anything of the sort.
As it was adjourned, I have still not been given any contact and I have no idea how long it will take for another date. I want to see my daughter but my ex has blocked my number is there anyway I can contact her solicitor and go through her instead to pass on messages?
(I have never spoken to her solicitor by the way I just heard her name and firm name in court earlier and have found the contact number)
I don't see any reason why you can't contact the solicitor. I'd do it by email, and possibly start by saying that you are contacting them as you have no other way of contacting your ex. Keep it polite and strictly limited to matters of contact - bear in mind that any communication has the potential to be put before the court, so you need to make sure that there's nothing that can be held against you. Doing this will also cost her (assuming she's not on legal aid) as it's taking her solicitor's time, and they can't bill you, so they have to add it to her bill.
Hi thanks for your quick reply. It is in fact her father paying for her solicitor but I think I'm going to email her solicitor. Thank you.
I agree, definitely email them but make sure you have an actual proposal to put to them. Be prepared for a 'no' if nothing was sorted at court. Perhaps suggest a third party supervision or contact centre?
Are the court going to undertake a section 7 report?
If you aren’t legally represented (this is called a Litigant in Person or LIP) you would have to communicate with her solicitor as part of the court process. If you are in that position it would be a good idea to contact them and let them know that they will need to correspond with you, and send you copies of any paperwork for filing with the court.
At the same time you can ask about the possibility of some form of supervised contact.
All the best
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